Each and every single one of us is designed to carry an individual and personal album of our good and bad memories. Unless there is something wrong with our brain we should be able to sift through our memory bank anytime without a glitch yet by choice. Since our life can be greatly effected by the way we think, we should learn to master imagining good as a movie and bad as a snap shot or a picture. This ability can be a powerful tool to for a healthy and happy life because if are really focused on one thing other things lose their physical impact on us. Unfortunately this ability is not easy to master so sometime getting stuck in our memory bank can ruin our present moment and even our day which has the potential to add up and cause thoughts related serious physical diseases. That can be a devastating blow to an already mortal life because it is self induced. Making a snap shot into a lingering video and uncontrollably watching it over and over is not a normal behavior but is quite common in people. We can make a long movie into a single snap shot and avoid all the bad effects but again that takes acknowledging it first, and then dealing with lingering issues. If you look at western nations there is a huge trend to learn and practice yoga, meditation and mindfulness. Eastern societies have known that for thousands of yeas yet interestingly they have a modern trend to follow western societies. Keeping mortality in front as well as having a belief system which has potentially powerful impact on the individual to create a different mind set.
Good context of our past moments can become essential for us to enhance our present moment so that can be added as a good memory. That makes it our personal and individual responsibility to seek this powerful medicine because it has the power to make or break our most important present moment. Individually we all need to know how important it is to store our present moment as a good memory because it all adds up. Since you can make a long movie into a slide or a picture, you, yourself hold an important card to heal or hurt yourself. If you are one of those people who turns a snap shot of a memory into an uncontrollable, constantly rewinding and playing movie. You have to learn to shift your focus on to something which does not cause you anxiety or depression. Simply it means you have the ability to choose, you convert good or bad memory into a slide or a movie. Remember we need to use all our abilities to make our lifetime as a good experience, if somehow you start to use this ability to ruin or harm your life it simply is equivalent to self destruction. In a mortal life not only our days are numbered our moments are numbered as well so a thought should be a slide or a picture instead of a constantly rewinding and playing movie, especially if it is depressing you or causing you an anxiety. Regardless of their importance to you, you have to learn to use this ability to keep your thoughts as slides instead of a horror movie. I read this metaphor somewhere but don’t remember who wrote that. Since it was long time ago and words may not be the same but metaphor is easy to understand. I would say author unknown. “That our cars have rare view mirrors much smaller than the front wind shield, clearly there is a reason for that and its our duty to personally understand this metaphor and apply it to our lives”. With hope and optimism staying focus on the present usually add up as good moments because you are not depressed by past or worried and anxious by the future.
This complex problem has an escape but one has to learn and understand all about our spiritual side and no I am not talking about your religious knowledge because today’s religions have sold their spirituality in the name of their political belonging. It may not be easy to make changes and go against the taught belief systems but if you are looking and seeking to work against the installed knowledge, naturally you are designed to do it. Your seemingly innocent parents and belonging societies believe into making you as a product of themselves so it is hard to buy into something new and different. Especially its hard to defy and counter the taught loyalties to our belonging groups. Becoming an independent entity in the environment of politics of belonging may not be easy but God clearly points towards our independence by blessing us with our personal atom of autonomy. This powerful atomic autonomic blessing is the foundation of our spirituality that teaches us to believe and believe wholeheartedly.
Whether it is good or bad you would have the power to make slides out of a horror movie or the other way around. Especially if you really believe that every single one of us has a special path in life to follow, you will be able to see what you have been learning from your parents and society you belong to. If you are taught that you can be anything you want to be. There is nothing wrong with all that until you start to lose your happiness and even health over it. Just ask yourself, why do we have all these different professions? Why people are not happy and healthy? Asking this can help you to acknowledge that internal, special and natural picture you carry within. You would be able to make yourself a Teflon against the moments related depression and anxiety if you learn to believe in your personal and special picture from nature. Remember being mortal you simply can’t afford to sacrifice your happiness and health to achieve something just to be accepted by the people around. This real event is to simplify this.
A long time ago I took the kids to McDonald’s, restaurant use to give a coloring sheet and something to color with, that all came in with the happy meals. This sheet had a picture of maze, a picture and then another picture with the dots and numbers. As a kid if you could read your numbers you were old enough to create that picture and then color it. That dotted picture has given me this idea. I believe God has a picture for all of us but the numbers are not placed so individually we all have to connect those dots to create our respected pictures. If you are lucky you can find the right one and stay healthy, happy and successful, otherwise you may follow the trends of the society and try to create a picture of influences. If you do that you may succeed in creating that picture but happiness, satisfaction and contentment are not guaranteed. Losing your happiness and eventually health because of the stress and frustration you are going through to achieve what is not your original picture. If you think that you are successful regardless of your happiness or health it is your personal choice but as a mortal you can’t sacrifice your whole life for the other people’s approval. If you remember your mortality it would help you to put things in perspectives, you simply can’t spend your whole life in fitting in, or impressing because you are the CEO of your life and other people are just a department of your life.
Imagine giving a picture to the child with no numbers. They would still have to connect the dots to create a picture but would have to rely on their imagination. If they are unable to create the picture they will get frustrated which could further complicate the problem. That is why there are so many grownup yet frustrated people – we all have an idea in our minds of how we would like our lives to be, but we must use our imagination and connect the dots. We can also rely on outside sources, like our parents but unfortunately in the end of the day as grown ups we all have to take a leap of faith in our personal life. If we are fortunate and flexible, we can figure out a pretty good picture with a combination of happiness and good health. If not, we run the risk of messing it up just because of what others think about us, and spend our whole lives trying to fix it. A less-than-perfect picture can create a personal struggle, which can last an entire lifetime. This frustration can cause adults to act like a child and mess up the whole picture with intention, or even worse, walk away from it all. Patience and believing in your own and unique picture are the keys to avoiding this situation. You also need to have faith in the picture you were given so try seeking what you feel comfortable with. You must examine if it is your desires that are causing you the frustration, usually the desires are related to the influences of the society. You need to accept the fact that your mortal nature should play a strong role in making decisions about your life.
For instance, suppose you were destined to become a mechanic, but instead you became an accountant, or you were destined to become a professional basketball player, but your parents forced you to become a doctor. It is unrealistic to expect that everyone will be successful in every career they choose. As a temporary being you have to be happy at all cost. The measure of the right picture is not how much money you make but its your happiness and contentment.
Definition of a successful life is determined by how content and happy you have lived. If you knew that life was like writing an exam, and that happiness and contentment are the answers how would you fair by following the life style you are following. Life on earth, a temporary period, means knowing how to manage your life to ensure, that it is fulfilling. Don’t forget by nature you are meant to be a CEO of your life, and you should not limit yourself to being a manager of one department. I am not sure about all people but to me being successful without the happiness or health is no success at all.
You need to map out your life with the vision of a successful CEO, who could mange all departments with equal or balanced attention. It may be hard at times but you have the potential. Each and every one of us has the responsibility and the ability to judge and make choices with the gift of free will. If you have neglected the department of health or spirituality along the way, because of you were too busy taking care of other departments, you may regret latter in life. Without health there is unhappiness and with out spirituality the deeper happiness and contentment of life are unachievable.
Yes, it is all a matter of happiness. We have it all wrong when we want to be somebody we’re not. Society places pressure on us – high hopes and a lack of faith pushes the individuals to sacrifice and spend whole life as if everything is on the horizon which never comes and then it is too late. We are in this world where the salesman mentality rules: Push, push, push, and you will succeed, succeed to get what? hopefully its happiness.
Just think for a minute about what success means to you. It’s happiness in all parts of life. Having all the money in the world will not bring about happiness. If you were to have a terminal illness, you would realize that you are not here for eternity. Life is temporary, so live yours to the fullest. Life is about more than connecting the dots. You have a limited time for every thing; you just have to break it down into our 24-hours a day and to a present moment. You have to work, sleep, eat and still leave some time for fun. You have to be a believer for your picture to be complete. Don’t be afraid to let fate play a role in your life.
When we have a target in front of us, we can shoot an arrow, and watch it hits the target. The result is immediate, but sometimes, we have to shoot the arrow at an unseen target. That requires skill as well as luck. A lot of people who are bad shooters think they are messed up and blame themselves, other people, God and even bad circumstances for everything wrong in their lives. If you are one of them just remember we are not 100% of anything, because we are an evolving entity seeking potential. Trouble is even our potential is in evolution so regardless of how high you climb you will still want to climb further because of your nature. If you don’t understand that you are not looking at your mortal nature and the importance of the happiness and contentment while you are alive.
We probably use twenty percent of our brain power which makes us far from potentially what we can be. I believe in being spiritual can put things in place and help us to look at life with a broader point of view. For example if you are boasting and bragging about the things you have achieved and done you are looking at this picture with half knowledge because it is not only you, who is making it all happen? It is that little oxygen you breath in first before you are able to make things happen and you have absolutely no control over it. Remember there is always somebody that makes you make things happen, and this entity can make you fail as well as succeed. The difference between you and other people is not just the efforts or strategies you put into things, it is also the luck and destiny or that hidden dotted picture within you are not willing to acknowledge.
You can play music all your life in the bars regardless of how good you are or become a child super star overnight. Just look around how many people want certain profession but end up doing something else. Ever wonder why? That is the dotted picture speaking loudly but its up to you to hear it. If you are unhappy try something else you may find peace with in by believing and letting it go. If you achieve inner peace you may become more productive and useful to yourself and the people around you. Ultimately that is the foundation of the deep and inner happiness and contentment. Since our make up says we are designed to evolve, we simply can’t stray from that. There was a meme I read long time ago, I don’t remember the author so I am going to say author unknown and I quote,
“Higher you climb further you can see” End quote.
Bottom line for us human beings is to evolve and be productive regardless of mortality so if you see someone really old and is putting a lot of efforts in life, you should know that they are compelled by their nature. To me if we get to achieve whatever we wanted, it should be considered as a dotted story related blessings. If we don’t get or achieve, we should wholeheartedly believe it was not meant for us. Sooner we accept that, faster we can move on to something else maybe according to our dotted picture. Which can help us put guards against the negative things like disappointment, unhappiness and discontentment. We should always remember that in a mortal life time is literally running out. Sooner we move on from our failures the better because our happiness is an ultimate prize of our mortal life.
As an individual we all have to always create balance within ourselves because that is why we are blessed with personal ability to use our free will. If we can’t use that to enhance our mortal life we have fallen victims to our politics of belonging. Being mortal is a fact and as human beings we all have to play this game whether we like it or not. This ability to use our free will helps us to make personal decisions and that is the wisdom of our dotted picture not having numbers. One way or the other we are influenced by our evolving nature so we will drive further and higher regardless of our happiness and contentment. Whether our motive is to fit in, impress the people around or not, still in the end of the day it is our personal duty to understand that we are not a genetically programed creature. Remember we don’t have numbers put up beside our dots so our decisions can make or break our achievement of happiness. Meaning our free will makes us the CEO of our life and as a CEO dotted picture or not responsibilities of our life affairs lands on our individual and personal shoulders.
Easily one can say I don’t care I am going to smoke, drink and do drugs because I am going to die anyway. The other can say I should take care of my self for the same reason and I should put more efforts to have a good life style so I can live a healthy, happy and a long life. Fulfill my responsibilities not to hurt my loved ones and community by stressing and worry them for my well being. Remember if one is willing to self destruct its one thing but denying our contribution to society and parents who took care of us while we could not help ourselves is an other. Since we live and are attached with our loved ones at home and in our communities we can effect others adversely with our reckless actions so spiritually we need to clearly understand our responsibilities. We simply can’t get drunk and drive because it is against the law of the land. Give a second hand smoke related cancers to our loved ones and same goes with our other and personal behaviors. By having a spiritual nature we all carry a sense of justice related responsibility and out of respect for love, not to hurt anyone else because self is always connected to loved ones.
If we start to look at our atom of autonomy related individual responsibilities critically. That can take us far higher than our politics of sense of belonging can, and yes even higher than our nationalism and religious beliefs where we can connect with humanity as a whole. Balancing our senses of belonging and freedom can be quite a task for us individually. Remember we are externally influenced by the politics of our sense of belonging and it does not stop there because we are internally influenced by our physically produced chemicals as well. You can see the presence and strength of our hormonal responses in our every day life. Especially in the responses of belonging sport team’s win or loss, or the fiery speeches given to us by our coaches, politicians and religious leaders.
As human beings we are spiritually aware and are able to self regulate so we can’t be running around under our hormonal influences like our fellow creatures do. Our personal responsibilities are not only limited to restraining from using recreational drugs and other social crimes. They go far beyond even our accepted truths like politics of sense of belonging related chemicals as well. We can’t be drunk on our racism, prejudice, discrimination even our nationalism and religious beliefs. Individually we all are equally responsible for our actions not only because of us being a human being but as an evolved human being. We are a unique entity who is not counted as just an other creature or an animal, so we are not under and I repeat not under but above our chemically induced responses. Just look at our court systems they will fall flat if we try to hide behind our politics. We personally are responsible for our actions. Not only in our living years, remember we are told we will pay for it even in after we die. Whatever you believe is your personal prerogative but you still can’t be committing any social and spiritual crimes and not be responsible just because your belonging groups say so. German halo cast or Bosnia mascaras and similar atrocities committed by the human individuals. Notice I wrote individuals not groups, it is because in the end of the day its our personal and individual decisions to join our groups to commit spiritual crimes. Any kind of social or spiritual crime whether its committed for personal reasons or in the name of race, nation or religion still is a crime. Remember most groups try to recruit young people because they have not yet completely developed, are in the flood zone of their hormones and are not spiritually aware. So if you are made to feel proud of your crimes you literally are under the influences of belonging related chemicals. If you don’t understand the reasons of your behavior it still is your responsibility to understand before acting. Simply because you are an individual who has an atom of autonomy related free will, personal sense of justice, ability to have individual compassion and love ingrained within you. You can’t be committing spiritual crimes for yourself, your race, nation or religion because you, yourself are a mini God who judges themselves from within.
Why do you think we have guilt ingrained within us as well? Why do you think we get PTSD related internal issues? A bad action is a bad action regardless of its reasons, so just like you can’t drink and drive, for the same reason you can’t do to anyone what you don’t like done to you or to your loved ones. Its simple enough to understand for the evolved human individual who can imagine themselves on the receiving end of their actions before acting. Unfortunately even in this day and age for most of us, we are still entangled with our racism, nationalism and religious disputes and things are not as simple and clear. I can say don’t be drunk because not only it robs you of your inhibitions and always remember those inhibitions, what makes you a human being. Without our inhibitions we simply can be standing in the line up of other primates. Still would be in the jungle and would not be any different than the baboons so there is literally nothing to show for our spirituality. If you act like an other animal in the name of your race, nation or religion they are your influences so they should be classified as drugs of influences as well.
If you don’t feel responsible for the actions committed by you for your belonging group. What would be the difference between taking drugs and acting like an animal or acting under the influences of the chemicals produced within you by being under the influences of political and religiously inspired fiery speeches. No matter what someone says, it has always been and still is your personal and individual responsibility to think before you act because the judge and jury is siting right within you and you don’t want to end up against that entity because its always there and that constant conflict can give you PTSD related issues yet from within.
Our nature has always been pointing towards our individual responsibilities to see beyond group politics. It keeps telling us everyday to work together as a humanity. Proof is clear just look around in the world there is not much inbreeding. There is not much pure black and white we got all shads of humanity available with a history to not only fight wars but to reproduce new and mixed generations as well. One may appear white but if you dig deeper genetically you may find a whole lot of discrepancies than what appears to be. We are lingering around our race, nationality, religious beliefs and territorial disputes, Yet humanity keeps calling for us to work together by throwing in global warming related extreme weather and infectious diseases like Corona virus we can’t build walls against. That keeps reminding us that our security walls are not the way to go nor our politics of belonging to our groups is the way. Our weaponry of mass destruction is present among us to remind us how important is to wake up and smell the political roses. Regardless of these messages people don’t believe in thinking beyond their group politics. If I say or insist and say that yours and my knowledge is not complete, your neighbor’s knowledge is not complete, your professor’s knowledge is not complete, your Mullah, Priest, Rabbi or even scientists knowledge is not complete would you believe me? I don’t care what your race, gender, nation or religious belief system says, if you are willing to go and kill each other over your politics. You, your religious leader or politician has it all wrong because we are always learning something new all the time so how can we claim our knowledge is better and complete? Interestingly we have been doing that since the awareness of our existence and heck yes we are still doing that. How can we be still learning while constantly claiming for complete and better knowledge ? Why can’t we come out of this thousands of year old contradiction? We will be doing that for coming thousands of years if we don’t change and bring ourselves to think beyond our group politics and connect ourselves physically to humanity and spiritually to the source. It may seem impossible but its quite simple to find answers. That is if we start to critically look at our politics of belonging to our groups. Logically if we start to look at our knowledge, it has been saying to work together all along but our politics of belonging has literally been and still is in the way of our evolution.
Our personal insecurities are literally inspired by the politicians of our groups and religions have been trumping us yet over and over. Teaching us everything else but really nothing about being a human being. Religions talk about compassion and love but have been and are still fighting the bloodiest and longest wars. Part of our problem is that politics of our groups has always been preaching individual irrelevance so ordinary individual does not have enough self-esteem to question governing authorities. Religions ended up following the same politics and gave all the powers to our metaphoric realities like God and Devil. Yet all metaphoric realities depend on the human beings to become physical realities. Sure we can’t deny our compassion, love, justice God and Devil but they are up in the air until we as humans give hand to those valuable yet still metaphoric realities. We are taught to believe good things belong to God and bad things are coming from the Devil’s influences. If you believe in all that human being falls and loses importance and becomes irrelevant yet we are the most crucial part of giving life to our good and bad metaphoric realities. That should make us third equation individually not as a group. So not believing in self importance is not coming from God they are all coming from the politics of our belonging to groups. Politics one-o-one.
If we are taught that all bad things are lack of our education that raises a question, what are the bad things? Remember we have several human societies and there are different schools of thoughts and levels of human evolution. Most of our differences are founded on our critical thinking and understanding so if you focus on forced education of set rules, critical thinking is literally discouraged. If someone is scared to death from the fellow human beings to even express what they think. It is not enough for the society to have someone critically thinking here and there. Education is based on logical and critical thinking but if that is muffled by the politics of belonging to group, progress and evolution can suffer. If one is discouraged, punished or even killed because of their critical thinking instead of being rewarded, people would stay in a survival mode which would keep them behind. That alone can keep belonging societies at stand still in certain era unless people start to break rules and carry on evolving. Present days progress and evolution level of humanity came from the people who either moved away from oppressive societies or societies realized that its good for them to encourage and reward critical thinking individuals.
Logical thinking has debunked carrot and stick philosophy because as a spiritual entity we are able to self regulate better with love and related knowledge. Meaning logically hell and following Devil can’t be stopped by force because as soon as fear subsides or God doesn’t show up to punish us. Human beings would commit crimes. Before we go in that direction we have to understand the powerful effects of the politics of sense of belonging on the not so educated population’s thinking tendencies. That is why our conservative leaders don’t believe in educating general population because if people start to question everything, they may lose out on their political grip of power. They are too quick to shun educated people who logically question their traditions, customs, religious rituals and rules. Our accepted truths can be questioned not only by the scientific community but other opposing politicians, religions and atheists. Sure we all have our evolution related problems like we can’t use full capacities of our brain power so sticking with something unquestionably can hold us back or leave us behind. It has been clearly proven in certain era of Muslim thinkers. They were thinkers and inventors but their own conservative segment of population worked against them. Today we are forced to follow the nations whom encouraged their populations to advance. For instance regardless of business motives of drug companies the whole world is demanding the vaccines for Corona virus and all other advancements made by certain advanced nations. We have to learn not to use our religions politically because they are only beneficial to humanity because of their spirituality. If you remove politics from spirituality you will be able to see what I see.
He is God, she is Allah, she is Ram, he is Yahweh as human beings they all are physical reality of God, religion or not. He goes to work to make money to take care of his family, she gives birth to reproduce physical hands for God, loves and cares. They are all giving life to all the good of life, if you ask how can God do bad things? Well to answer that these three things come to my mind. First how would you be able to tell what was good or bad if there is no other. Second you attached hell with God because you believe God punishes for disobedience. Third our free will, don’t you think if God was pulling our strings and every thing was meant to be, God was all good and nothing but. How would a human being be able to do bad things? Either we don’t have free will or God is in it. You can bring in an other character named Devil in the picture to blame for everything bad but to me personally this good and bad story does add up. Until you bring in a free will holding human individual who chooses to give life to good and bad. Now who is really doing good and bad? If human can’t even breath to function on their own. How can they be exclusively responsible for their actions? They have help in committing that good and bad action. Does that mean God is in it? Should we believe God is responsible for every human action? If God is responsible why some one does not die before committing bad actions? Why do we attach every bad action of human being to Devil? If human being is responsible for personal actions then why do we hide behind the Devil? I would agree with God’s help deserving reciprocation but I would not agree with hiding behind the Devil because to me it is all politics and nothing but. That means if you are throwing stones at metaphoric Devil you can’t be killing someone who is making a statue of God and worships, because they both land in a same metaphoric reality.
Just imagine these days going to court and telling the judge that Devil made me do it or saying God ordered me to kill some innocent people for God so I am not responsible for my actions. Sure there are still some people who would believe in that. They would worship and credit God for every good thing they do and blame Devil for all the bad happens in the world, they are the one believe Devil took over them when they did something bad to someone. My question is why would human be an irrelevant part of this picture? If human is the one who gives life to our metaphoric realities like good and bad actions or dare I say God and Devil. If human is not doing anything then why human being is guilty of anything? My trouble believing in all that comes from human irrelevance. If practically human gives physicality to every good and bad why human being is not counted as the third equation to complete this triangle, and why not equal partner in crimes of bad and credited for good. Why not in life where it matters, why after death?
I believe its all because there are people who benefit from keeping ordinary individual as uneducated and irrelevant. Who are these beneficiary people and why they want people to have low self-esteem and no self respect? Only one thing makes sense to me and that is if human individual feels weak and vulnerable they would stick with their belonging groups. If belonging groups are the beneficiary and they have political agendas to keep their political strength. They would keep their belonging populations from educating themselves. They would preach that individual needs a group and God to survive against other opposing groups. That literally means individual needs belonging group and God so can I can agree with that but that would be 100% political and would not have anything to do with spirituality. Spiritually and even physically if an individual is not there, logically group and even God and Devil lose their importance, integrity, value or even life and blood. To me its an equal partner game of reciprocation, you simply can’t deny or keep human individual as an irrelevant, unimportant, meaningless or unnecessary. A long while ago I wrote a little poetry about God and human individual in my language I am going to translate that part what connects here.
“We are like two wires intertwined as negative and positive,If there is not me you are not meaningful either.If there is not light in my nights, I see dark on the other side as well”.
This game of reciprocation should give some self respect and self-esteem to the human individual but politics of our belonging is founded on the individual weaknesses. Unfortunately even our religions could not stay pure of this politics so they have sold their spirituality or soul to keep their political control. I believe and think we are a crucial part of our spiritual picture and are the most relevant even if our politics and religions say otherwise. I am following what makes sense to me, if you choose to believe in something blindly and follow the politics of your belonging groups you are not looking at this holy picture with your God given questionable nature. Lets look at it this way, if your life is supported in any way, shape or form, you should have respect for that supporting entity. In this context or picture God but other human beings play a big role as well. Your parents love is a critical help which helped you to survive in your vulnerable times of life so you owe them respect, love and help out of the duty of reciprocation. Interestingly some people do respect and honor God but often neglect to respect and honor their parents, partner, friends, children governments or employers. Modern day reality is that people in their marriage do the same, instead of respecting with reciprocation they try to dominate and use each other like animals. As I said if your life is supported in any manors your helping hand deserves respect and honor. If someone helps you when you are in need, you should never forget to reciprocate in return if you can’t at the least you can respect their actions. If your friend is there to support you, you owe them the same. Reciprocation is not only a business of our spiritual life, its a physical duty as well. Fundamentals of being happy is to be appreciative and appreciated, whether you are on one end or the other. Give and take is a must for a spiritual and social creatures like us. We have to rise up and evolve from our animal instincts like dominating each other as individuals and even collectively as well. That would come easily to us if we learn all about our responsibility of spiritual reciprocation.
If you feel that you are putting too much efforts and your partner owes you, you have a problem in the reciprocation area. If you both sit down and honestly define what is expected, you may survive in a relationship. Otherwise relationship would fail and you may end up with no help from the partner at all so you will have to put more efforts to live your life. You may become unhappy or worse you may end up with someone worse than your previous partner. Having a successful relationship requires a spiritual understanding of reciprocation whether it be with God parents, children, group, society, nation, religion and all the way down to your partner and even with yourself. If it is love, respect and honor, you reciprocate with love, respect and honor because it is a spiritual clap which requires both hands to make a sound. If you feel you are strong independent and better part of the relationship you have got a spiritual problem. Your relationship with God is not one sided same goes with your other relationships. If you feel pretty or handsome or better part of the relationship you are trying to physically dominate your partner like animals and not focused on your reciprocation. You should know in the foundation of our bad relationships, disputes and wars we carry the same foundational problem. This thinking of being better goes long way because building of our prejudice and discrimination stands on this human spiritual illness. This illness does not let us see that we are a social, aging and mortal entity.
Regardless of your sexual orientation, race, gender, color, nation or religion you are still a human entity. So having relationship with other human beings can’t be avoided. When you think you are better because of whatever you belong to or believe in, potentially that has the power to take you away from your personal spirituality. Simply and logically you can’t be better than other just because of your given identities. For instance if you say I am the boss that makes me better than my subordinates, simply remember it is not you its your title and identity which can’t stop you from aging, sickness and dying so you may have a better job but that does not mean anything when it comes to our spiritual realities of life. Understanding your mortality can help you to be a better person. Since deep spiritual happiness depends on awareness, if you are missing out on it or are unhappy regardless of your successes, you have to learn all about your mortal nature and duty of reciprocation.
Lets look at sex in a relationship without any discrimination, naturally sex is for both partners. If a female thinks that a male needs and wants it more then her he should pay for it by taking care of her expenses. It may be an individual perspectives but how it effects her is a subject of serious discussion. Sure reciprocation makes life look like transactional business but how you feel spending your mortal life is the topic. When we talk about reciprocation between God and human individual its a spiritual business of life, but when we talk about human to human it appears to be about love and transactional business of security and being comfortable in a mortal skin. As I said it before, if one is helping you in any way or shape you have a responsibility to pull your share to make their life secure and comfortable as well. Say if you can’t chip in financially, you can take over other areas of life to be helpful to make your partner’s life easy. If you are doing that remember its not for the other but its for you to be respectful to yourself as a spiritual being. Lets talk about our animal side or nature. Remember just like other creatures we have alpha and beta individuals in people and that is regardless of their sex. Now if you don’t have the understanding or you intentionally don’t try to balance your physical and spiritual side you may get in trouble relating with others. You may end up in a situation where you would try to dominate each other regardless of who is providing. If you are a kid and provided by the parents, you may try to dominate them regardless of you being a dependent. If parents level of patience has gone over board, their love may suffer a loss but you may end up in a bigger trouble because you don’t yet understand your nature and placing in it. Same can go into passionate love as well where if an alpha female is trying to dominate an alpha male regardless of her positioning, love loss may happen just because both sides are not understanding their duty of spiritual reciprocation. Our trouble is that we are still in a learning process, if we can’t create balance between our spiritual and animal side we may carry on with our social troubles. So before you spend your whole mortal life following your thousands of years old traditions, customs, rituals and religious rules or even modern trends try to understand your mortality related slipping away time. Always remember whether you were born five thousands years ago or today’s time mortality is still a fact. So its crucial for you to think about your life as a CEO, know if you are alpha or beta physically and know if you are spiritually aware enough to create balance between the two, to function in your personal living years.
If you sacrifice your happiness and contentment just to fit in with your belonging group or are trying to follow whatever is popular in the era you are born in. Its your prerogative but it is your spiritual duty to honestly pull your share by reciprocating. The bottom line for achieving personal spiritual comfort is to go after the cause or as I say it the dead dog of our problems. If the cause of your inability to achieve personal and inner peace is your animal instincts, evolution from that is in order. If humanity has not been able to achieve peace in thousands of years because of our group politics. Obviously its not going to be easy to change thousands of years old ways of doing things. Interestingly today’s individual is not weak and vulnerable like they were in the past. Today everything is on the internet and injustices get published even as they are happening so, no one is able to hide their political agendas as they did in the past. With present days strength of human individual equal human rights are becoming common theme and are flourishing in all over the world. Our next step is and should be to beat our prejudice and discrimination against each other. By joining humanity as a whole based politics instead of keeping it with the old status quo. If you choose humanity over a group you would be able to choose spirituality over your religion as well. Remember humanity has been and still is seeking that illusive peace which we could not achieve in thousands of years of evolution and that is just because of our group politics. For sure we will not be able to achieve that in next thousands of years if we don’t change our same old political belonging to our groups. It can not come from our political groups and especially from our politically tainted religions, because if that was going to happen it would have been done long time ago. It has to come from the modern day moderate individual who is willing to give and receive equal human rights from each other. A strong and spiritually aware individual can effect immediate family, community, nation and religion regardless of the difficulties of political belonging. Since a physical individual is the main character in creating physical spirituality. Their spiritual importance has to be understood by themselves so they can seek inner comfort from within instead of seeking physical security from their political groups. Regardless of the era of political religions this spiritual understanding holds the key not only to find internal and external peace but spiritual comfort within our mortal skin as well.