Picture yourself in the produce section of the supermarket, picking out some fruit to buy. Naturally, you avoid the bruised ones. However, when it comes to life, it’s just like Forrest Gump said—you never know what you’re going to get. When you receive what life hands you, you must put things in perspective.
I believe we all receive life as a package, making us the true owners of our experiences. This means we have the power to make our own decisions during our lifetime, regardless of external influences. If you’re raised as an extension of a family, community, race, nation, or ideology, my question to you is: where, when, why, and how do you use your free will? If you believe you don’t have any, I suggest looking deeper inside yourself to find your true value. Do you really let others call the shots for you all the time? If so, what is the real purpose of your life? Are you unhappy? Do you know the root cause of your unhappiness? How much say do you think you have in your own life?
There is a natural order in all species, including humans. Do you know if you’re an alpha or a beta? What happens if an alpha male enters a relationship with an alpha female, and they have alpha children? What happens to alpha individuals in oppressive societies? If you’re unhappy and can’t figure out why, relationships with your loved ones, including children, can be chaotic if everyone tries to dominate each other. It’s cute if your kid dominates you and you let it happen, or if a girlfriend calls the shots and you play along as a beta because the relationship is new. But can you maintain that facade for the rest of your life, or will you explode when your dominant nature is pushed to the limit and you try to re-establish your dominance without success?
I believe most Western societies have a high proportion of the alpha gene pool because many alpha individuals leave their countries for a better life and end up in more liberated societies. This creates significant problems with acceptable adjustments.
Nature is both the cause and the provider of solutions, but we must look in that direction to find them. If our nature haunts us and our family life, we must, as individuals and as a society, understand our nature. Societies need to learn how to accommodate and comply with our nature instead of suppressing it by force.
Flexibility is key. You can’t just suppress or oppress nature because it can’t be done. Humans are creatures of two sides: strong nature and intellect. You can’t pick one over the other; you have to navigate both to live a happy life.
If you’re an alpha male, you need a beta female for a good working relationship, and the same goes for alpha females. The problem is that naturally, alpha females are attracted to alpha males. This might work in the wild, but in today’s society, where following nature is discouraged and no solutions are provided, people have to make their own acceptable adjustments to have successful relationships. Otherwise, there’s a lot of chaos in our relationships.
Imagine being stuck in an oppressive society for your entire life as an alpha male or female. We’ve survived through kingdoms, isms, and dictatorships thanks to our ability to be flexible enough to make acceptable adjustments. We are evolving, regardless of the speed.
As of the end of 2015, it’s the first time women are voting and running for election in Saudi Arabia. It’s fortunate and unfortunate at the same time. I recently saw a post on Facebook that until 1927, Canadian women were not considered persons. Colombian women voted for the first time in 1957, New Zealand in 1893. Surprisingly, Sweden allowed partial voting in 1771, Finland in 1906, France in 1944, Greece in 1952, Switzerland in 1971, and shockingly, Vatican City is still the only country where women cannot vote. Evolution is ongoing but has been fought tooth and nail by ultra-conservatives, despite knowing that treating a human being as lesser is unjust. I strongly stand against injustice and fully support human individual rights. Our identity is human, not male or female, homosexual or heterosexual, Muslim or Christian, Black or White, Pakistani or Canadian. Donald Trump should realize that the whole world has changed. These days, political parties must come to the middle to win elections, or an individual’s view can bring down the entire party.
I believe the entity residing in each of us is not male or female. Ever wonder why males have nipples? The answer is that physical changes come with hormones as the fetus grows—the start is the same. Distinctions are all about abilities, disabilities, and potential. For instance, if a female firefighter must pull her 250-pound partner from a burning fire, she should have the ability to do so. This should be a job qualification, requiring the same physical test for males and females. If a male can’t pull or carry the partner, he shouldn’t qualify for that job. Job descriptions should require the same for males and females because these days, some females lift more weight than males. Anyone who pursues a certain lifestyle and achieves that kind of strength does so through pursuit. Each of us has built-in potential as an entity; male or female labels come from society. If society suppresses potential because of customs, traditions, religious beliefs, or ego, pride, and honor, this suppression can work against God’s will, which is for us to pursue our potential. Do I believe all religions blocking individuals from pursuing their potential are wrong and not following God’s will? Yes, I do.
God created humans with the potential to evolve. The proof is in the pudding: suppressing societies lag far behind those that encourage the entire population to evolve. Keeping half the population dependent on the other half slows progress and evolution.
Believing in stereotypes can limit individuals from reaching their potential. So, as an individual, it is crucial to seek the status of a CEO, regardless of gender. As a CEO, you are responsible for standing up for yourself and reaching your potential, so you can reciprocate at a higher level what God meant for you. If you have been suppressed and feel you can help humanity more than you are currently able to, you should seek, pursue, and evolve by educating yourself and those around you. Personal happiness highly depends on the service you provide during your lifetime. Thus, by serving others, you benefit yourself as well. In the end, I encourage you to look at your life with an appreciative eye.
Say God gave you this life, and I would compare it to a fruit. We all have a fruit we should appreciate, but if you’re not happy or appreciative of your fruit, you need to understand why. If your fruit has a bruise, you can’t be aware of the imperfections unless you compare it with others’ fruits. What if others hold their fruits in such a way that their bruised side is hidden, so no one sees it? You might see their fruit as perfect, but you know your own fruit isn’t. Health, finance, and love can change at any time in one’s life. Awareness of your personal bruised fruit is crucial because you can choose to make big problems small by accepting your bruised fruit, moving into the zone of hope, and believing that everything changes over time. When life is good, appreciate it; when it’s bad, maintain a good attitude and hope that it will change.
There is nothing wrong with comparisons if you use competition for humanity’s progress. But when comparisons harm you as an individual, it is your responsibility to take charge of your life and fix the problem. If you’re unhappy, always compare both sides—look to those better off for inspiration and those less fortunate for appreciation. If you’re still unhappy because of the bruised fruit, try cutting off the bruised part so you can enjoy it. In the end, you are mortal.
If you always seek perfection, you will sooner or later face many imperfections and bruises as you age. A temporary life is like visiting a vacation spot. It is your duty to make every effort to enjoy a happy vacation. Our life is like that—it’s a visit, not a permanent stay. So live accordingly. If you think, “It’s not going to happen to me,” or “I won’t let it happen,” you need an attitude adjustment. If you don’t adjust, it will happen anyway. No plastic surgery or implant can stop you from aging.