Happiness robbing what ifs.

From our history to modern-day living, these “what ifs” have been part of human evolution. From the reasons behind learning ancient martial arts to the desire to own guns, from successful businesses in all kinds of insurance to the aspiration to migrate to the Western world, from saving and investing for financial security to developing various weapons including chemical and nuclear bombs, and even praying for a spot in heaven—our education systems are designed to instill fear and prepare us for the uncertainties of the future.

Individually and collectively, if human beings continue to exploit one another (as we have done since our earliest awareness), it breeds a lack of trust. Without trust, we should all recognize that we have the potential to destroy humanity over mere “what ifs.”

We are taught about these so-called disasters and uncertainties of individual life. We are led to believe that we can control them ourselves, yet individuals can feel helpless during wars or when natural disasters cripple entire communities. Personal strength is tested by individual circumstances, so a positive belief system becomes crucial. These predicted disasters may or may not occur, so this education isn’t scientifically proven, but it remains prevalent worldwide, irrespective of differing belief systems.

From market crashes to personal financial crises to unexpected health issues, our conflicts and related crises resonate loudly around us. Yet, despite our beliefs or the depths of those beliefs, we often feel insecure individually.

The unknown remains unknowable despite education. People seek advice from financial planners, psychics, horoscopes, and everything in between, only to discover that nothing is foolproof. Most of us are taught to save for rainy days, even if it means living sacrificially. However, despite global education and savings efforts, many people live in poverty—financially or in terms of happiness and contentment. My brother recently sent me a picture of children playing pool on a clay table without a brand, which inspired this quote:

“The happiest people don’t have the best of everything, they make the best of everything.” — Author unknown

The greatest challenge for individuals is mortality, which prevents us from keeping life’s elements in neat and predictable order. If you cultivate a habit of total control where two plus two always equals four, you might find life a rough journey, robbing happiness by choice.

The effects of our lifestyle choices manifest in later years. If you consistently live in control mode, you’ll eventually face the consequences as an individual, because your life is your personal project. You are its CEO by your own logic, not an extension of nationality, race, gender, or ideology—your umbilical cord was cut at birth.

From mistrust in one’s own beliefs or God to stress-related issues, these are clear signs of modern living’s side effects. Is living this way truly beneficial as an individual?

This question should be asked by each of us because, ultimately, we are mortal with limited time, yet societies and their members live on beyond us.

A mortal should focus on gathering happiness and seeking contentment in daily life. Since happiness and contentment are individual responsibilities, we must discern which education or knowledge aids in their accumulation. If knowledge from upbringing robs personal happiness and contentment, personal strategies must be devised for a successful mortal life.

Living in a state of “what ifs” fosters insecurity and control issues.

Control, as a habit, can prove dangerous for mortals, encouraging them to live as though immortal. It’s a core problem and a self-imposed reason for unhappiness.

As a society, we advocate and enforce our ways of life on all members and even other societies, despite our internal challenges. For instance, all religions suggest that God rewards those who spread the word and recruit from other societies. Today, democratic societies seek to spread democracy universally, despite its struggles within their own systems.

Our living systems encompass traditions, customs, and beliefs, ingraining us with the belief that our way of life is superior, particularly in matters of religion. As individuals, we often disregard personal mortality due to a strong sense of belonging. However, it’s essential for us to prioritize individual health across all facets of life, as healthy individuals are the lifeblood of their societies and responsible for personal happiness.

When things go wrong, not only does the individual suffer, but the entire society bears the burden. From market crashes to wars, flawed thinking exposes us all to collateral damage. No human knowledge should be deemed ultimate; we are evolving, learning from mistakes and experiences—or at least, that should be the case.

While I’m not a financial specialist and won’t suggest financial strategies, I advocate for logical living with an understanding of mortality and individual responsibilities. If one spends a lifetime preparing for “what ifs,” saving and living in self-imposed poverty, succumbing to stress-related health issues or mental health problems, it represents a preventable loss for both individual and society.

Do I suggest disregarding social norms? No. I believe money is earned to live this mortal life, not just to accumulate wealth and live poorly. If fears of “what ifs” dominate your thoughts, check in with yourself—don’t sacrifice happiness for hypothetical scenarios.