Love Triangle (Part 1)

Human life depends on and revolves around love; we strive for it, and try to protect it at all cost. The biggest reason for worries and stress along with food and survival is the loss of love. When children are out of sight, parents not only worry about their well-being; they fear the loss of love as well.

Since everyone feels and knows about the pain of love loss, opposing groups try to get at each other where it hurts, so killing each other’s belonging individuals is an ongoing process along with the causes of prejudiced related hatred regardless of civilization and evolution of humanity in all other departments.

This raw core is the one where the human individual is equally divided with the potential to be good or bad, so all people surrounding the individual with love have to be responsible. If you are nurtured with love or rob of love would set the foundation. Belonging families, communities, nations and religions are just as responsible for an individual’s bad behavior as a grown up individual would be. Harsh punishments may tame people with fear but as human beings we bring along a potential to be good so we need education based on love. If you look at the crime rate in the nations where they have harsh punishments is not lower than the ones where they are not as strict. If it is not the harsh punishments then what would be the reason to have a lower crime rate. Common sense says that love triangles make sense. If we all are responsible and play a role in raising good and bad people then we all should take initiative to be responsible.

This animal core is where one can decide to choose and this is where we are highly influenced by the love we receive or don’t. Love, whether it’s universal, passionate or instinctive, love is what makes us separate from the other animals and makes us the work horses of God.

As humans we have free will, which makes us personally responsible for our actions during our living years, how it should be lived, and whether we are focusing on finance, love, health, or any other areas. Making a decision for anything in the future, such as going to school for a better job or sacrificing our life in the army, is first and foremost dependent on the individual to use his/her free will. Our actions and reactions are our decisions, regardless of emotional pressures. In a court of law you just can’t say “my God told me to kill so I should not be charged,”  so regardless of the demands of the belonging groups, an individual is still responsible for his/her actions.

Let’s look at it this way, if each and every one of us has a life story written as a  musical sheet: where you as an individual are a musical note and the empty space between the notes is God. So, when it’s your turn to speak, you speak, and when you are required to stay quiet, you stay quiet. In order to create a good harmonious melody out of your mortal life. You have to follow the rhythmic system for your personal and individual life.**********************************

If you choose to grab a drum and beat the hell out of it for a few hours without any break, you will become exhausted. Likewise, if you say everything is done by God and do not speak even if it is your turn, you would have a blank sheet.  Human progress and evolution would come to a screeching halt. Either extreme is wrong and works against the individual and God simultaneously, because human beings are God’s work horses. We have to save lives and reproduce so God can exist to fulfill people’s prayers. Since man is the third equation in the triangle of God and the Devil, he judges the good and the bad. If man is not there to judge, the good and the bad lose its importance or disappear altogether. It is man’s job to understand his/her importance in the larger scheme of life and live his/her life with justice to himself and all others around.

There comes a time when love starts to compete; it can tear the individual apart, so it is important for us to learn to become a CEO of our lives. You can’t just choose your society over your loved ones, or your lover over your children or family or society.

Learn to balance all the corners of your triangles to be spiritually healthy, especially when it comes to the love triangle…

You can’t just disregard your kids who are your instinctive love, if you find a new passionate love. You can’t just live your life for the community and disregard your family or vice versa. Balancing is not easy especially when you are brought up with the strong sense of belonging to your belonging group, but remember as an individual you are created with the free will thus you are the CEO of your life and that is your job, so make the right decisions to stay away from spiritual crimes.

These evolutionary love corners are the human being’s jewels and we should be proud of our accomplishments, but the fact is that they all depend on the existence of that core. Without being physically alive there is nothing you can feel, enjoy, or react to, our belonging religions may have certain visions of afterlife but we as groups don’t agree with those visions so it all depends on the individual to keep the balance between living years and the disputed belief systems. We have acquired this jewelry with a long journey of evolution, but regardless of evolution, mortality is a fact of life and is still considered a loss. Sometimes this loss comes from natural causes, accidents, or war-related circumstances. They all have the potential to strip man from these Godly gifts and we can end up in a pit, where the negative and evil reactions arise from. This pit is our animal side where we are naked of love and have the potential to be fearless and potentially barbaric beings, even if we are born raised as a gentle soul.

I talk about the triangle because I believe everything should be in balance; if love is out of balance, man is capable of committing spiritual crimes. A child robbed of love in his early years may grow up with issues and wound up a criminal or unfit to have healthy, loving relationships later in life.

When universal love is stripped, some people are willing to kill their own children. The example here is honor, ego, and pride. There has even been a documentary about a Sikh family who got their own daughter killed because she married someone who they disapproved of.

Passionate love can destroy instinctive love and instinctive love can do the same thing to passionate love.

There was a girl who drowned  her two sons because her boyfriend did not want children. When kids come along, some couples can’t balance the love, and end up splitting.

When couples break up, they feel the loss of passionate love, but if kids are involved the loss is twofold, because you are not only losing passionate love you are losing instinctive love as well thus the potential for spiritual crimes increases. What would we do without love? If we are capable of committing spiritual crimes in spite of love?

Wars often rob all kinds of love, and spiritual crimes can evolve to all sorts of war crimes and human rights violations. In my opinion, the cause of our terrorism and heavy-handed revenge bombing is the stripping of love, which turns the individual into a loveless raging revengeful animal.

Lack of understanding about the human being is responsible for these perpetual spiritual crimes. We know a lot about other creatures but still we can’t figure out how to deal with our own kind, the disputes all over the world are clear signs of this misunderstanding. We use propaganda and politics to put each other down and blame the atrocities but forget that we all are human beings. We use God and religions in the name of politics, yet there is nothing clear about our past and future, which I mean before birth and after death, other than the assumptions we make with our evolving and constantly changing knowledge.

For millions of years we have been around, and for thousands of years God has been in our lives. Where did we come from? Science and religions both don’t provide more than assumptions.

Whether the chicken or the egg came first, God created man or man created God is not as important as the chicken which lays the eggs and feeds human beings, or the human individual who is doing all the Godly work. What came first has never been clear nor is it important, so we look for evolution theories. Still the world would argue about it because of the different schools of thought. I am not going to dig into the past or the science to create argumentative assumptions just to find out how and what happened. I am going to stay in the present and see what is happening right now. My question is, why are we still killing each other regardless of our civilization?

Using common sense and logic has always worked for me, so I am going to follow that and explain how I think about what is and how it should be. If it makes sense to you and you like it, then keep reading; evolve from the pond philosophy and broaden your horizons to live this life as a third equation, not subservient to any ideology which keeps you exploring the space and the ocean where you belong. Today the individual is connected to the Internet, and living in the pond with boundaries is like using a computer without having a connection to the Internet.

Don’t just follow whatever your belonging group is calling for: question the political motives and make your choices as an independent entity who has free will to explore the inner and external space. Remember that using free will is a privilege and your human rights at the same time.

Spiritual justice has been and usually takes a back seat when it comes to security. Since there is no ultimate security for the mortal, we should put and keep everything in perspective. Living with justice to all including yourself brings inner peace to the individual, thus it should theoretically create universal peace as well.

The essence of human life is intertwined with love; we seek it out and safeguard it at all costs. Loss of love, alongside concerns about sustenance and survival, ranks among the greatest sources of worry and stress. When children are out of sight, parents fret not only about their physical well-being but also about the potential loss of affection.

Given the universal experience and understanding of the pain caused by losing love, opposing factions often target each other’s vulnerable spots. Consequently, the ongoing cycle of violence persists, fueled by prejudices and animosities, despite advancements in civilization and human evolution in other aspects.

At the heart of this dynamic lies what can be described as a love triangle – a complex interplay of emotions and motivations. This core represents the innate duality within human nature, capable of both benevolent and malevolent acts. Surrounding individuals who nurture with love or deprive of it play a crucial role in shaping this foundation. Families, communities, nations, and religions bear responsibility for fostering either positive or negative behaviors in individuals. While harsh punishments may deter wrongdoing through fear, true transformation requires an educational approach rooted in love. Crime rates in nations with severe penalties do not necessarily differ significantly from those with more lenient systems, suggesting that fostering a culture of love and understanding may be more effective in reducing crime.

Love, whether universal, passionate, or instinctive, distinguishes humans from other animals and serves as the cornerstone of our spiritual development. Endowed with free will, individuals bear personal responsibility for their actions and decisions, regardless of external pressures or affiliations. While belonging groups may exert influence, each person ultimately remains accountable for their conduct.

Maintaining balance in the various facets of life is essential for spiritual well-being, particularly in navigating the complexities of romantic relationships and familial obligations. Striking this balance requires conscientious decision-making and a steadfast commitment to upholding spiritual values.

Tragically, the absence or distortion of love can lead individuals to commit grave spiritual crimes, resulting in profound societal repercussions. Whether through acts of honor killings, crimes of passion, or neglect of familial duties, the erosion of love jeopardizes the fabric of human relationships and communities. War, fueled by the absence of love and understanding, engenders further atrocities and human rights violations, perpetuating a cycle of violence and suffering.

Addressing these spiritual crises necessitates a deeper understanding of human nature and a commitment to fostering empathy and compassion. Propaganda, politics, and religious dogma often exacerbate divisions among people, overshadowing our shared humanity. By embracing reason, empathy, and a commitment to justice, individuals can work towards creating a more peaceful and harmonious world, transcending the boundaries of ideology and belief. Ultimately, it is through the pursuit of spiritual justice and universal love that humanity may aspire to lasting peace and fulfillment.

If you possess and exercise your free will, you stand at the apex of the triangle, thus it is you who can rectify the situation.

Politics and individual insecurities lie at the root of both personal and societal unrest. If you perceive yourself merely as an extension of an ideology, you fall victim to your own internal imbalance, which I view as a human flaw rather than an asset. True assets include the capacity for independent thought, the use of free will, and the ability to administer justice to all, including oneself.

I contend that humanity occupies the highest position in this hierarchy, not the lowest. If you believe contentment lies in being devoid of opinions, consider examining yourself under a metaphorical microscope; you will discover much about yourself. You might not hesitate to harm an innocent for the sake of your group, develop an eating disorder, or contemplate suicide due to societal judgment. Always remember, you have been endowed with free will for a purpose; if God created humans, it was with the intention that they evolve into godly beings.

Humanity has descended to a lower status due to personal insecurities, which serve to mask the underlying politics of belonging, cloaked in the guise of nationalism and religion. I advocate for the restoration of humanity’s rightful position—and yes, each individual is the CEO of their own life. Regardless of logical deductions, humans must occupy the highest corner; even if religions espouse otherwise. It is a twisted logic that all religions impose stringent rules and punishments. If they genuinely believed that God orchestrated every action, they would exhibit more forgiveness and grant individuals greater leniency. Our legal systems would lose their significance if every human action were attributed solely to God.

Every societal transformation begins with an idea originating from an individual, as we adapt to the changing landscape. The inception of religions, or ideologies such as socialism, communism, or democracy, serves as examples. Every change elicits a reaction; while one religion may suit certain individuals, it may not be applicable to others, hence the perpetual need for new ideologies, even within existing religions, as evidenced throughout history.

From communism to socialism, from religious sects to atheism, we witness unmistakable signs of progress. Humans naturally gravitate towards progress, whether gradual or rapid; we inherently pursue our potential. Human opinions have, do, and will always rest on shifting ground due to our continually expanding knowledge base.

We err, rectify our mistakes, and press forward, only to realize that our corrections require further refinement. From medical advancements to societal norms and everything in between, change has been, is, and will remain a constant. Given our ongoing evolution of knowledge, impassioned extremes have no place in our journey of progress. We are all born human first, thus our primary allegiance should be to humanity.

All human groups, be they defined by race, gender, nationality, or religion, are inherently political entities, as they are rooted in the politics of belonging. Religions ought to remain focused on spirituality, which has always been and should remain the bedrock of service to humanity. When religions intermingle with politics, or when individuals conflate the two, it breeds a toxic concoction that not only disrupts personal peace but also foments warmongering tendencies. Emotionally charged individuals may believe they are fulfilling divine mandates by committing spiritual transgressions. Throughout history, countless lives have been lost due to religious extremism; from the Crusades to contemporary religious conflicts, all are manifestations of prejudices propagated by religion.

The underlying catalyst behind religious discord is not God or the doctrines themselves, but rather the politics of belonging. This sense of belonging intertwines the individual with their respective group. Since groups are unlikely to deviate from their political agendas, it falls upon the individual to effect change. If you exercise your free will in decision-making, you possess the potential to be the CEO of your life (a role inherent to each of us).

A CEO may opt not to adhere to the politics of their group or uncritically accept the status quo. Western societies provide a pertinent example, wherein individuals of diverse religious beliefs coexist harmoniously while adhering to the rule of law. The cornerstone of this harmonious cohabitation is the constitution, which safeguards individual rights irrespective of religion, race, or background.

Understanding the dynamics of belonging and freedom is paramount, particularly in an era marked by weapons of mass destruction. Political elites, nations, and religions are disinclined to reconcile their differences, as such discord perpetuates their respective power dynamics. Our collective history reveals a litany of conquests, subjugation, genocide, and dehumanization. A candid reflection on our past reveals the blemishes of our ancestors; it is time to pardon and forget them, recognizing that they acted to the best of their knowledge or in accordance with their inherited wisdom. Today, global interconnectedness via the internet enables individuals to connect with one another across geographical divides, transcending the constraints of belonging.

Balancing the realms of belonging and love fosters inner peace and enables its dissemination to others worldwide. If person-to-person connections materialize, it will mark the inception of change from the grassroots level. The top-down approach has proved ineffective for millennia and will likely remain so in the foreseeable future, given the entrenched politics of belonging to our respective groups. As individuals, we must prioritize our allegiance to humanity over color, race, gender, nationality, or religion.

Historically, our governing structures have been instituted from the top down. It is time for genuine democracy, flawed though it may be. Each of us is blessed with the capacity to make choices; we are all born CEOs of our own lives. However, our sense of belonging often enslaves us to our respective groups. It is time to transcend these boundaries and embrace humanity in its entirety, acknowledging and empathizing with the pain of love loss not only within ourselves but also in others. It is time to propel humanity to the next stage of evolution, wherein we no longer resort to violence in the name of God or nation.

 

 

 The love triangle…

Here, another triangle which has been flipped and needs to be put right-side up:

If you have and use your free will, you are on the top of the triangle: thus it’s you who can make it right.