The Blame Game.

A few years ago, I visited my mother shortly after my father passed away. One evening, we had a conversation that touched on a sensitive topic. Growing up, I had observed my mother blaming my dad for everything that went wrong in her life. Despite this, he endured, and our family remained intact. As our discussion unfolded, I pointed out that despite praying five times a day and fasting yearly, she never truly, deeply, and I mean genuinely believed in God. This revelation shocked her. I explained that my father was just a man, and she blamed him for all her problems. I asked her if she ever considered whether her life story attracted those problems, rather than causing them. This wasn’t what she expected; I wasn’t suggesting blind faith but rather a profound, transformative belief in God. She began to cry, seemingly overwhelmed by guilt or a newfound realization.

For some people, life seems controllable. I don’t dispute the influence we wield, but control is another matter entirely. Seeking control can become habitual, leading individuals to extremes and causing them to forget their mortality. Trying to control everything, even the uncontrollable, sets one on a path that robs them of happiness. Despite all the blessings one may have, they can remain unhappy throughout their life.

I find it peculiar that the closer people are to religion, the more controlling they become. It should be the opposite; a belief system should ease life’s burdens by fostering trust in God.

Certainly, you have agency in your life, but if you choose to exercise it, it should be to live a life of health, happiness, and success. If you’re writing your own story, aim to create inner peace and enjoy the journey because it’s temporary.

Imagine going on vacation to a hotspot; you wouldn’t want the worries and stresses of everyday life to follow you. This short journey will end, regardless of how you write your life story.

If you’re stressed, depressed, or anxious, look closely; you may have what I call a “pit problem.” Constant fear depletes nutrients, leading to physiological symptoms. I believe that by giving spirituality a chance to address the root cause, you may rise above physical ailments.

The awareness of mortality breeds a fear of death, which fuels the desire for control. These twin fears wreak havoc on individuals. Life and death are undeniable facts; there’s no need to fear them. Our expectations spiral out of control, leading to self-imposed deprivations and anxieties.

A CEO understands that life is temporary and shouldn’t be micromanaged. Instead, they control behaviors that rob happiness. If you were the CEO of your life, would you recognize what’s truly beneficial? The question is, are you allowing space for serenity to help you create happiness in your mortal life? (Melody of life)

On a sheet of music, notes alternate with empty spaces. Music emerges from both; without notes, there’s silence, and without empty spaces, there’s constant noise. Neither extreme is suitable for human beings, especially concerning free will.

While meditation can benefit stressed individuals by quieting the mind, it doesn’t solve all our problems. Total silence or becoming a monk can hinder our evolution. Instead, use meditation to center yourself, but continue pursuing growth. Speak when it’s your turn and learn to stay silent when necessary.

Each individual must compose a rhythmic melody of life. Complete silence may hold a spiritual essence, but it doesn’t fulfill us physically like human beings. So, we each write our own music and must use our free will to create a melodious harmony.

If you spend hours beating a drum vigorously, you’ll exhaust yourself and exhibit symptoms of burnout, much like many modern individuals without faith. Find spiritual faith, whether in religion or elsewhere, as long as you don’t believe it makes you superior. Religious prejudice is the cause of many wars. Becoming a CEO can help you understand the spiritual aspects of religions, as well as the political.

We carry memories, but dwelling on past wrongs harms us. Remaining bitter is unjust to oneself and doesn’t create a fulfilling life. The enjoyment of life’s music and the adverse effects of noise are both for us alone.

You must devise a strategy to live a better life, so you don’t carry burdens constantly. This is no easy task for controllers, so learn to be a CEO; it’ll help you discern what’s best for your well-being.

You aren’t solely responsible for your success; you can’t survive without oxygen. Your physiology depends on oxygen to function. Without it, you’re essentially lifeless. Therefore, don’t boast; be humble before your time runs out. Connect with the source and contribute to humanity however you can. It’s not about belonging to religions; it’s about personal spirituality. Your true connection to the source is reflected in your character and practical aid to humanity, not just prayers, fasting, or loyalty to groups.

When you believe in God but blame someone else for your problems, it’s often due to expectations. Whether from yourself, a spouse, partner, or God, these expectations stem from a desire for control. But life isn’t that simple; otherwise, we wouldn’t seek solutions to our problems. God wouldn’t be there to lend a hand, and free will and potential would be meaningless.

In tough times, we become resourceful and build rafts to help ourselves individually and bridges collectively. When something happens, it challenges us to take charge of our lives.

No job, spouse, or religion is worth sacrificing your happiness for; life is temporary. Like a vacation, you don’t want to ruin it by losing your happiness. Being a CEO means not sacrificing your company’s most valuable asset due to misplaced blame.

Each job loss or breakup builds walls higher until you’re trapped within self-imposed boundaries. Ultimately, no individual, group, or even God should have the power to make your life miserable. Fix your belief system and take responsibility for your happiness.

Remember the triangle of health, happiness, and success. Without spiritual, physical, or emotional health, happiness is unattainable. And without health and happiness, there’s no success in life, regardless of how you define it.